Does Virtual Reality Porn Mean the End of Humanity?

I recently read an article by gaming blogger Nathan Grayson who tried Virtual Reality (VR) porn. Knowing what I know about the effect high speed Internet porn is having on people’s sex lives after spending 2 years researching porn addiction and its relationship to the porn industry, I shuddered when Grayson quoted this anonymous man…

“At first it felt surreal and disconnected, but I timed myself to get off at the same time she did,” said this person, who preferred to remain anonymous. “And suddenly, I came, and we had that moment of [exhausted breathing sounds]. She was breathing at the same time. And then she looked me in the eye and leaned in and said, ‘I love you, baby.’ I was like, ‘Wow, that was amazing.’ And then I realized I’d only had that experience with a few girlfriends in my life. That’s when I realized this shit is crazy. To connect with a human you need so many things, and this achieved it almost immediately. This girl was there with me, and she recognized me, and she appreciated me.”

To go from “strangers” to “joint orgasm” to “I love you baby” with a sexy avatar that “appreciates you” in minutes is seriously mindblowing because of the implications of what that will do for normal sexual relations for the long term. Not having to make any efforts to having the sexual and emotional devotion of a “someone” – even if that “someone” is an avatar – will be very appealing to some. Imagine it… Never again having to shave, wash, change out of your sweaty work clothes or clean your teeth to get lovingly laid; never again having to face rejection because you are shy, have acne or are socially phobic; never again having to go through the often tedious motions of courting someone…

As things stand today, many escalating porn users have already stopped having sex with their partners in the main – unless their partners act like porn performers and even then interest in the partner wanes over time unless that person keeps upping the ante on their “porn performances” in synch with their partner’s escalating sexual needs or adds more people to the sexual mix. In the 20 odd years since the Internet entered our lives and high speed Internet porn replaced having to buy VHS porn videos from Adult Stores or Mail Order, sexual relations between couples have changed dramatically. According to my research, more and more people are beginning to see their real naked partners as just bad porn; increasing numbers of this generation of young men are still virgins in their 20s and 30s or get “porn creep” when they try to have sex (an inability to get an erection) or just generally have erectile dysfunction due to compulsive masturbation.

In the article, the blogger writes “Maybe we’ll stop having sex with each other. Maybe this is the end of humanity.” He doesn’t know how close to the truth he is with that statement…

Because of the science behind porn addiction (you can find an article I wrote about that ON THIS PAGE ), and addicts needing to keep pumping the brain chemicals dopamine and adrenaline around their bodies, pretty soon, everything will have been done in real person porn (apart from live porn with addicts trussed up to high tech vagina or penis simulated equipment) and then VR porn will truly take the stage in a big way. In a sea of free Internet porn, the Industry is now struggling to make money. The only porn which makes money today is porn which gets adrenaline increasingly released into the body during benders – things that addicts are gradually exposed to as a bender progresses – like anal relapses, “shemales”, and ultra violent “forced”/ rape porn for example. Porn addicts are addicted to adrenaline and dopamine big time and this is what keeps them coming back to porn day after day and why porn is so defended by people in general and addicts in particular. It’s simply the pleasure principle jacked up to the teeth. I don’t buy the Free Speech arguments. That’s all puff and wind to distract from the real issue of the fear of having orgasms on tap taken away.

When VR porn settles into our future, it will tick every box. It will give addicts the “intimacy” they crave that they are not having with their partners – or anyone at all if still virgins – and will pump dopamine and adrenaline levels through the roof because there is no end to how violent, crazed or grotesque VR porn can go – like its younger high speed Internet porn sibling before it. At present, there are only so many penises the industry can currently fit into real performers and only so much violence they can heap on them before they break inside (physically and psychologically) but in VR porn there will be no such limits – a pornographers dream.

VR porn may just turn out to be the last nail in the coffin of real intimacy between couples and may fully seal the deal for humanity in the process when people finally masturbate themselves into extinction.

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Sexually Suppressed Societies and Internet Pornography

Google enables anyone to quantify almost anything – what people are worried about, what people want to buy, what they do buy, what they want to learn, etc. And then, you can cross that information with almost any other parameter, such as geography. So if you want to know where people consume the most pornography, Google can actually supply that information – within seconds. A trend that has been noticed concerns the search for porn and sex related Internet content. It is commonly understood that pornography content is one of the most sought after types of Internet content worldwide. But in which regions and countries is it MOST searched?

While the answer may surprise many, it does not surprise psychologists and researchers. At the top of the lists for porn related search are Muslim countries like Eqypt, Algeria and Pakistan. In the US, there are more searches for porn in States such as Utah. In societies that tend to be more repressed in their sexual attitudes, it appears that people are driven to seeking information and exposure online.

In a study done by a Harvard University affiliated group in 2009, it was found that in the US, states where a majority of residents agreed with the statement “I have old-fashioned values about family and marriage,” bought 3.6 more pornography subscriptions per thousand people than states where a majority disagreed with that statement.

“Over half of internet users in Iran have admitted searching for porn and about one third of them do it every day,” says Saeed Madani, a sociologist in Tehran. Note that in Iran, pornography is illegal and just last year, many arrests were made of suspects accused of running pornography websites. Iranian boys and girls are banned from socializing freely and demand for online adult content has exploded there.

Psychologists in these kinds of communities, where harsh laws are enacted to try to eliminate sexual content or access to it, find that many people suffer from extreme sexual problems caused by years of suppression and fear.

So what can be concluded or from this information? On one hand, it appears that enacting laws to try to prevent access to pornography is not working and is likely increasing the public’s demand for the pornography content. On the other hand, the availability of pornography and the widespread exposure is undoubtedly a danger to society’s sexual and mental health.

In societies that ban open relationships and do not allow any discussion of sexuality, even if it is educational, normal and healthy, the population is driven to seek information elsewhere. If the only available source for learning about sex, is pornography, the results can be catastrophic. So the conclusion is that indeed, something has to be done about eliminating access to pornography. But in parallel, it must be ensured that children, teens and adults all have access to the right kind of information at the right time in their life and in a highly accessible format. That would include parental guidance, sex education in school and Internet content that can enhance their understanding and remove the element of embarrassment they may be facing.

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Stimulating Penis Performance Through Watching Porn With a Partner

Penis stimulation, which is a key ingredient in maintaining proper penis health, comes about in a variety of ways. For many men, viewing some form of porn is one of their favorite methods of achieving penile enjoyment. Often, adult entertainment is a tool for masturbatory activities, but many men would enjoy adding a little adult entertainment into the mix with their female sexual partners. The problem is that many men fear, and perhaps with justification, that the woman (or women) in their lives would look down on them for watching erotic films, never mind asking them to be involved. But for those with a willing partner, adding adult entertainment can add a little extra spice to their sex lives.

Assess the situation.

While the popular view is that women are mortally offended by adult entertainment, this is certainly not true for all women. According to information from Brigham Young University, as many as 1 out of 3 visitors to adult web sites are women. So it’s possible a lady may be more “into” the idea of exotic viewing than she lets on.

If a woman has made comments that clearly indicate she believes adult entertainment to be unworthy of respect and attention, it’s probably a good idea to steer clear of asking her. But if she has not made her feelings known, a man should look for clues about her feelings. In a best case scenario, he should go ahead and make his own positive experiences with adult entertainment known and ask her how she feels – but he should also realize that in some instances, this honesty may bring about a difficult time in or an end to the relationship.

Determine tastes.

If a woman has an interest in adult entertainment, a man should then find out where their tastes and experiences overlap. If she has only made small forays into the world of adult entertainment and he is a connoisseur, it may be prudent not to jump into some of the more heavy duty or unusual viewing experiences. Also, a man should find out whether there is a preference for movies/videos, still photographs, or erotic literature. Once all this is established, the man and woman can move forward.

Start slowly but then experiment.

Most couples may want to start slowly. For example, they may put in a DVD or pull up a computer video, lie back in each other’s arms and just indulge in mutual masturbation as they watch the onscreen antics of the actors.

Paying attention to how the woman reacts is important. A man can then decide if a little dirty talk is appropriate, and if so what kind: Should it focus on commentary related to what is happening on screen or should it be more personal, comparing (favorably, of course) your partner’s attributes to those of the sex kitten onscreen?

Many couples prefer to use adult entertainment strictly for mutual masturbation sessions, but others like to use it as foreplay, leading to oral sex or intercourse. For those who move beyond the masturbation, adult entertainment can be an excellent way of introducing new positions into their sex lives by copying what they see onscreen.

Be complimentary.

After the sexual interlude is over, the man should make sure to be attentive to his partner; while discussing the adult entertainment is appropriate, it should always be in the context of how it makes him appreciate his real life partner.

Using adult entertainment with a partner to achieve maximum penis stimulation can often result in a sore penis, so employing an exceptional penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) is essential. Letting a partner rub in a cream that includes a superior emollient like shea butter will both soothe the sore penis and strengthen the bond between the partners. And a man that selects a cream that also includes vitamin A is showing his respect for his partner, as vitamin A has anti-bacterial properties that help reduce penis odor, a turn-off for many women.

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Why Do Adults Watch Porn?

Before going into the details, kindly note there are over 4 million websites of porn. The number amounts to nearly ten percent of the total amount of websites and the number of visitors is 72 million visitors every month. Nearly one quarter of the daily searches are limited to pornographic sites, where only in America nearly 30 million visitors are regular customers. The porn industry produces nearly 25,000 films per year and the revenue crosses $10 to $13 billion. There are over 200 production regular companies and there are around 3000 performers.

There are many reasons why adults and older men prefer to watch porn. Giving an answer is not easy. Many people are of the view that persons who watch pornography are always thinking about or ‘obsessed’ by sex. Although, this might be cited as one of the reasons why they might be addicted to watch porn scenes, there are also other reasons.

Some of the negative effects of watching porn are loss of jobs and friction in relationships.

A few reasons why adults prefer to see porn are given below:

Many of the persons, even though they have families are often found to be lonely. These men are bored and watching porn is an activity to them similar to shopping, eating and taking a nap. Porn seems to give them a sense of entertainment.

There are some acts performed in porn which the other life partner might not be comfortable with. In porn movies, the acts will be various and the adults enjoy it.

They feel that they can control their sexual urge by watching porn. However, they are not.

For some of the men, watching porn is like seeing comedy movies. Especially the weird stuff. There are persons who watch this stuff with beer, pop corn.

There are many who do not have bodies similar to those of models acting in porn. Viewing porn gives them a high.

Naked scenes and attractive action are not the only reasons why people find porn so attractive. Some of the men buy into fantasies that the porn offers and get hooked.

There are men who like the actions, but cannot risk asking their partners. Viewers often see the models as themselves who perform, and the illusion becomes regular.

In times, where they are rejected or rebuked, they often turn to porn as an action of revenge. Porn is an escape from the world and an answer to their fate which makes life difficult.

There are women who become depressed after they found out their husbands watch porn. They assume their beauty have subsided; they have become less attractive to their partners. However, psychologists are still not able to figure the reason for men looking at naked people performing sexual activities. There is a theory, however, that brain cells when observing a sexual action, have a vital role in arousal of males.

There are teenagers who watch porn to get knowledge. Most of them see porn scenes as a university. For them, porn stars are the teachers and professors. However, many of these teenagers turn into addicts and if they fall into bad habits, their life will take a change for the worse.

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Where Does Sexual Addiction Come From?

Although recent research suggests that there is a biochemical and genetic component in the genesis of sexual addiction, there are a number of family of origin variables that have been linked to its development. Sex addicts often come from families where there is a permeating emotional environment of anger or hostility. There tends to be at least one parent that is emotionally unavailable, and the rules and interactions tend to be constantly changing with chaos and unpredictability the norm. There is often a family background of sexual addiction or some other addiction. When there is no obvious sexual addiction, there is often a parental history of affairs. Adults, looking back at their families of origin often have difficulty identifying the dysfunction and may not be fully aware of parental sexual acting out or addiction. Or they may have heard of some vague family rumors.

Children may have also been exposed to inappropriate sexual images in the way of pornography or from observing adults. For the sexual addict, there is often a history of being sexually abused in one way or another. This could involve the physical sexual abuse that you normally think of, when sexual abuse is mentioned, or it could involve an emotionally or verbally sexualized relationship with significant adult (i.e. sexual innuendo).

Many people with sexual addiction discover in recovery that they have been playing out some unresolved relationship issues from their childhood. When a child does not have his or her needs met the way that they need them to be met, they tend to recreate the same interpersonal dynamics in their adult relationships. They try to solve the relationship problems in adulthood that they could not solve in childhood. This does not work in adulthood either. The child’s caregiver was unable to meet the child’s needs because of some defect or problem of his/her own, not because of something the child did or did not do. Rigidity and/or chaos, and emotional unavailability are frequent parent characteristics.

Children find ways to self-soothe. When one’s emotional needs are not met, children find ways to feel better, at least for a short while. Toddlers discover that it feels good to rub themselves and may eventually compulsively use masturbation over time.

Although there is an infinite variety of sexual behaviors that sex addicts could engage in and could come to prefer, compulsive masturbation is the common denominator. Later on in life, when someone has come to understand that their sexual behavior is causing problems in their lives, and they seek to eliminate that sexual behavior, they often try to hang onto the option of masturbation-the old stand-by. The excitement and release of sexual activity is their “drug of choice”, not just the behavior identified as the problem (i.e., voyeurism, infidelity, etc.).

Initially, the sexual activity is simply pleasurable. Then it is used to relieve pain, such as anxiety, loneliness, sadness, etc. Eventually, it becomes the “pain reliever” of choice. There are many parallels between drug addiction and sexual addiction. One is that the sexual activity that can produce a “high” to rival any external mood altering drug. The addict is chasing that “high”.

Sexual addiction, persists over time with the help of “denial”. Just like alcoholism/drug addiction, “the problem” is identified as anything but the sexual behavior. People try for years to solve the problem that has incorrectly been identified. Just like alcoholism/drug addiction, typical denial techniques include: rationalizations, intellectualization, outright denial, blaming, projection, minimization, and others.

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